New Place New Chapter New Problems?

 

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So we’ve moved!  

And although we are currently living in a sea of boxes we are both so much happier! The last place held so many conflicts and personal issues that it was really a load off our shoulders to break in a new chapter in an entirely new place :)  

I don’t know what it is about moving – the purging of old unused items, the fresh opportunity to recharge sleeping goals, or the reorganizing of daily life and routines that is so exciting and contagious… Now that the packing is over, I get to take my time  replacing our daily items while reviewing how we manage our sometimes chaotic schedules. I’m tired but excited to start once again on a clean slate – a new chapter.  

This week has actually been quite interesting too. Our new place had some water damage in the basement just before we moved in so we actually have ALL of our belongings upstairs until the repairs are completed. While living within boxes and eating supper on our living room coffee table doesn’t really grate my nerves, apparently it HAS grated Billy Graham’s…  

Billy G has decided to start marking his new territory – including our bed! Of all the cats I owned in my life (too many to count) I’ve never had this problem before… Armed with determination, I’ve done all the research in how to tackle this problem. But as we’re still unpacking and getting used to our new surroundings, including the new posse of cats we’ve met in the past few days, I can’t possibly integrate any of the needed changes and retraining until every thing ELSE is settled – grrr.  

Poor Billy G and poor egyptian bed sheets! This stinks – literally. The hubz and I will have to be careful that the added stress won’t build tension. We’re pretty good at being aware of outside influences when arguments start popping up for no good reason. Why are we arguing about nothing again? That questions always seems to be a good indication that we just need to take a break and sit outside with a good cup of tea together. I only hope that Billy G settles in as well as we have… At least Chuck Norris has – he’s even introduced himself to his new feline neighbours without any hissy fits.  

These close quarters are truly challenging – our sanity is quite sensitive right now. Nothing that some wine after work,  ice-cream for dinner and a few extra date nights won’t fix I think… I’m so grateful that we have a two-week window between leases to take our time relocating! This whole experience makes me want to write a “How-To Move Without Losing Your Minds and Your Cat’s Bladder” article – what do you do while moving to keep your sanity?  

Well – back to more cleaning at the old place, unpacking at the new, and surviving another stinky mess…  

Cheers!  

the Mrs.  

 

Wednesday

Sweet and simple reveries…

The Mr. has been packing and rearranging for the move while I’m at work during the day – one less stress for me to carry around at work…

I now think of marriage like I think about living in my home state of Minnesota. You move into marriage in the springtime of hope, but eventually arrive at the Minnesota winter, with its cold and darkness. Many of us are tempted to give up and move south at this point, not realizing that maybe we’ve hit a rough spot in a marriage that’s actually above average. The problem with giving up, of course, is that our next marriage will enter its own winter at some point. So do we just keep moving on, or do we make our stand now – with this person, in this season? That’s the moral, existential question we face when our marriage is in trouble.
Bill Doherty

 

the Mrs.

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