I don’t really make an effort to follow marriages within the realm of entertainment – but I do give credit to those that have lasted in what must be the most challenging environment with very limited privacy.
In the article, Jill Jacobs interviews Jada Pinkett Smith for Yahoo! Canada News to discuss how she balances being “an actress, director, producer, singer, author, mother and wife”. While the interview focuses on Jada’s newest TV drama “HawthoRNe”, a few intimate questions on marriage were highlighted.
Will & Jada Pinkett Smith
What kept my interest was a chosen topic this blog aims to explore – “beating the odds” in marriage. Jada credits friendship and evolution for their shared success. Any long term and seemingly happy relationship such as Will & Jada’s marriage is an inspiration to us. We pray their marriage continues to be blessed in the years to come!
Here’s a quick excerpt but overall it’s a great read.
Q: You’ve been married to Will for 12 years. How do you beat the odds when it comes to Hollywood marriages?
A: “Probably because we’re the best of friends. You have to be expansive and elastic, willing to grow and change all the time. I think we do that together. Sometimes we drive each other crazy, but we’re able to sit down and work it out as friends. I think that’s probably the most important part of our relationship, the friendship.”
- Evolution of Reconciliation
Continuing from Day 3… My husband presented his request. Interestingly enough – again – only with a sly grin. I knew what it was even as I was writing the last post. Damn his predictable male mind. I submitted and once again (as he likes to call it) – “saved the marriage“. I’m truly torn with this act of submission – it’s so simple and easy but yet it frustrates me to no end that it fixes everything for him. Why can’t I have a single on/off switch that ends all disagreements? Meh – that’s for him to deal with – he’s got the bigger responsibility haha.
Each day has since continued as expected. Routines have resumed – short kisses have reappeared.
Our daily talks still gently meander back to our heated arguments days ago… Except now they lean moreso towards brain-storming, review, and finally encouragement and hope. We like each other again. Ha – feels good to finally say that honestly.
It’s tough when the disagreement is so broad that there really isn’t any one answer that would be suffice. It’s a degree of change, a slight alteration of our lifestyles and relationship that eventually seeds evolution in our marriage. But the mutual conclusion of this need to change, the acknowledgement of both our efforts needed to effect a positive outcome will be the next steps… This time there were no apologies even needed – just a revived issue we had to tackle together once again. So we’ve unpacked this problem, rearranged our strategy, and replaced our neatly arranged box of efforts.
At least we have the rest of our marriage to figure it out right? Hell – that sound both ominous and promising at the same time.
I can say that we have both agreed to a new common practise…
Fight clean and have dirty sex… LOTS of it.
Until the next battle.